Sky Diving and Bungee Jumping and Wingsuit Flying, Oh My!
Just a peak at my resume would make it clear to anyone that I am no stranger to making choices. The list of career paths I’ve traveled is a long one. Making wise choices was vital in the Air Force, as a teacher, and it remains that way as a counselor in my practice. One look at my two boys who are quickly becoming men and it’s easy to see that working and hard decisions are as familiar to me as the hands that rocked them to sleep and changed their diapers. So much of life depends on the risks we take or don’t take, the choices we make and the ones that we don’t.
Should I get that degree?
Should I make that move?
Should I say “yes”?
Should I go or should I stay?
Should I change careers?
Often, one of them feels risky, like sky diving or bungee jumping (NEVER going to happen) while the other one feels safe and familiar like a warm blanket. We often think that there is a risk and a non- risk. But really, we’re always choosing between two risks. One risk requires us to take action and the other risk (sometimes easier) requires us to stay the same. When we open ourselves up to growth, we accept the possibility of great success and of great failure. Many of us let ourselves become paralyzed by the fear of the possible failure. So I want to share with you three questions that will help you make better decisions and live a life of less anxiety and more peace, courtesy of Andy Stanley.
In light of my past, what is the wise decision?
In light of my present circumstances, what is the wise decision?
In light of my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise decision?
These questions make it personal, and invite us take responsibility based on our own experience. Of course seeking wise counsel is always a good idea when it comes to tough choices. Have one or two people you know will steer you in the right direction and really listen to their input, letting the rest fade into the background. The more you take risks and put yourself out there the easier it will become. While I have no intent to bungee jump, I did the high ropes course a few weeks ago and realized that I could work on overcoming my fear of heights. This one small step is leading me to sky diving with my dear friend when we are 87! Taking risks has allowed me to stop taking myself too seriously and when all is said and done, never take yourself too seriously, because no one else is.